Alex and Morgan have been struggling recently in their relationship with balancing personal autonomy and connection to others. They both want to be free to do what they want, but they also want to have a close relationship with one another. What are these opposing motivations called?

Which couple type fails to maintain a 5-to-1 “magic” ratio of positive or beneficial behavior to negative or disadvantageous conduct?

In the beginning of their relationship, Rachel told her girlfriend that she loves to receive flowers when she is sad. This week, Rachel had a death in the family and expected her girlfriend to buy her flowers, but she did not give Rachel flowers. According to Peterson (2002), this event can be classified into what category of instigating conflicts?

Which topic is most often cited as a source of disagreements among married couples?

Who experiences the most conflict?

_____ is a conflict ending that results when couples reduce their aspirations or gradually change their goals, allowing a mutually acceptable alternative. Neither couple gets everything they want, but no one goes empty handed.  

Which of the following is NOT a result of normal, healthy conflict?

Social allergies, hypersensitive reactions of disgust and exasperation to small recurring nuisances, are common in what category of instigating conflicts (Peterson, 2002)?

Both partners believe that the issue being presented is unsolvable and not worth being talked about. Which decision point does this represent in the course of conflict?

Match the example to the couple type according to Gottman and colleagues’ research.